“I want to find a good man to take care of me.”
Why? You can’t take care of yourself? What makes you think it is someone else’s responsibility to take care of you? Ok, ok I get it, some men like this kind of stuff and some women love being house wife’s but that brings me to the question: “What do you bring to the table?”
Do you anything to offer this man that you want to take care of you? You are a Burger King cashier (nothing wrong with that) trying to land and Astrophysicist. What do you have to offer this man? Will you have anything in common with him if you do happen to catch his eye? Can you hold a conversation for more than 5 minutes? Believe me this is not a pro man blog about how we need to give our men everything and anything they want, in contrast it is a pro woman blog that says we need to empower ourselves and give ourselves more then what we feel we deserve.
Ladies we are in the new millennium and we need to get off of our rears and get out of that 1950’s mindset that “I don’t have to do a damn thing but lay in his bed”. If you want to keep him you have to offer something, he is “taking care of you”. What are you giving?
We woman can be pretty vicious when we rate men. We judge a man by assessing his list of “valuable inventory”… in no particular order
JOB: what does he do and how much does he make. (How much do you make and what do you do? Do you want him judging you by this?)
CAR: what does he drive and how much did it cost. (What do you drive?)
HOME: where does he live and how much does he pay. (where do you live?)
BODY/LOOKS: does he take care of himself? Is he built like a Greek god? How many woman drool over him? (You know you do it. You want the man that every woman is falling over trying to get. I don’t even want to get started on this one, just going say look in the mirror ladies. Take a comb to your hair and put on a little lip gloss. Also I say this as much for myself as I do to you, don't jundge him because he is 15lbs over weight when you have 30 extra pounds on your rear!!!)
CLOTHING: How does he dress? How much does he pay for his clothes? (How do you dress? BTW Do not go out in public in your PJs and slippers and for the love of GOD leave the teenager fads to the teenagers.) . THIS IS NOT CUTE on a 30something!!!)
Ok now that we have gone down the list of what we look for in men and what we want…
What are you bringing to the table?
Awesome post!!
ReplyDeleteI am the complete opposite, for two years i have fed, fucked, and financed a man, and gotten NOTHING in return. He has no job, no education, no car, and no life. I am beginning to hate every day that i come home and see him there, stealing the color from my surroundings. I want someone to talk to...just talk. Or enjoy silence with. Someone to eat biscotti with or drink chai tea and discuss culture, art, the future, or nothing specific. Music, bugs, mud puddles, crayons, laughter, giggles, tears. I want to be understood to the depth of my soul. I want my silence to be felt and every word i don't whisper to be heard. But how do i drop another soul into the abyss??? I once too, was needy and afraid...I know that fear. The dilemma eats my words for me, and i silently creep in my own house where i pay every bill, and every crumb that is eaten in my absence. i sweep floors i don't walk on and wash dishes i don't eat off of. this routine is skinning me alive. i want my happiness and serenity back. although, i was the one that gave it away.............
ReplyDeleteTake it back. I know easier said then done but it can be done
ReplyDeleteI love your post girl! Women empowerment! That's what the new millennium is all about. I loved your post and think you are outstanding writer! Keep up the good work!
ReplyDeleteVery insightful. It kind of goes back to the old judging a book by its cover. I can use food as an example better though. A munk fish, FUGLY as it is, it one of the best tasting fish out there.
ReplyDeleteYou have to be able to take care of yourself before you can expect anyone else to take care of you. Those who NEED being taken care of are those who are not capable of taking care of themselves. So ask yourself, are you handicapped to the point you can not take care of yourself? If so, then outside of family, sorry to say you're gonna get screwed.
That's my two cents.