Someone else’s mess…

I am posting this even after I told someone that I was not posting it. I have my reasons for not wanting to post it but hey what is a point of a blog then to convey your thoughts right? So here goes my little piece of the net…


Someone else’s mess…

How often do you clean up someone else’ mess? I know, I know we all do it. We all try to fix someone else mess and sometimes we step in the gap and become their solution. This is bad news for us. After we figure out that we have become the solution to another person’s problem it makes it hard for us to do anything for ourselves because we then disturb this other person. Any movement we make now causes a major disruption in the person that considers you their solution. Once the DISRUPTION has come about, the anxiety, stress, fear, anger and a slew of other emotions for BOTH of you will follow because you are now TRAPPED.

Or so you think.

All you have to do to get out of this predicament is let go. I know that is pretty difficult in its self. We are afraid if we let go that person that uses us as their support will fall and bust their asses beyond repair. We are afraid they will not survive if we let them fall. Well guess what? It’s not your problem. If they fall and bust their asses well that is their problem not yours. You are not them and you are not responsible for their actions. They are just like you and can learn to function on their own. We cannot take on this persons mess along with our own. I know that sometimes they try to force it on you and MAKE you take it and then when they fall they want to blame you for the pain of their thorny landing.

DON’T TAKE IT, IT’S NOT YOURS!!!

What happens when you take it is that we then allow another’s person chaos to cloud our judgment, we develop this tough connection to said friend (leach/parasite) and we allow them to feed off of us. They don’t have to do any work because we do it for them. We then are angry and feel used and fenced in because we took their load. We start to let their problems and issues steal our joy and our sparkle.

Let it go….

You may have to try a few times before it takes and you may feel quite guilty for letting them fall but it’s not yours and every moment you give them is a moment stolen from you, your children, love…life.

Let it go…